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Why Etiquette And Manners Matter In The Modern World
It is more important now than ever to remember that etiquette and manners matter. In our fast-paced, modern world of email, texting, and zoom meetings we can sometimes forget our manners.
Here Is Why Etiquette And Manners Matter:
Manners help improve relationships, strengthen communication, build self-confidence, and help us develop good rapport with others. Etiquette shows others that we are aware of our surroundings and act accordingly. We shouldn't behave like wild animals unless we are in an exhibit at the zoo.
Manners Go Beyond 'Please' And 'Thank You'
While "please" and "thank you" are pleasantries that most people say, a gentleman knows that when he uses those powerful words, he means them. (Our article Three Simple Phrases Every Modern Gentleman Should Know, goes into more detail)
A courteous gentleman respects the efforts of others. He is mindful of his actions and words. Present in the moment, he understands the need to make others feel comfortable in various situations. Not pushy or demanding, he respects boundaries.
Manners Show Consideration For Others
Manners have a powerful influence on relationships. When you are willing to go above and beyond to assist others, even in small ways like asking about their day or using your own time to help them complete a task, they appreciate it.
Consideration for others plays a huge role when we practice good manners. Examples of good manners include holding doors open for others, not chewing with your mouth open (or talking with your mouth full), taking your hat off indoors (in certain situations, which we explain in our article Hat Etiquette: When And Where To Wear Your Hat), and more.
Applying manners and etiquette can open doors to new opportunities. When you outwardly express your consideration toward others, they see your true character firsthand. This can lead to new opportunities down the road. You never know when you may run into this person again. They could be a future co-worker, neighbour, or friend.
Manners Affect Others
When you do nice things for others, it's like you're a ray of sunshine brightening their day. Your glow and warmth will make them feel good. A positive attitude is contagious. The practice of empathy and generosity pays off in dividends.
Not only does doing a good deed make the other person feel good, but when we express gratitude it gives us a bit of a serotonin boost as well.
Not Everyone Appreciates Manners
Some people might refuse to use manners and etiquette in their lives; these are people who may have been raised without them or don't see the value in them. While it should be obvious that the benefits of courtesy far outweigh the negatives, some are adamant that good manners are useless or make you look weak.
If you encounter someone who mocks you for your new gentlemanly skill, simply ignore them. They fail to see the positives and are trying to bring you down to their level.
While some may not be willing to learn manners or accept their value, perhaps believing it makes them less of a man or feeling uncomfortable with vulnerability, that's their choice. It does not mean that you have to stop.
If you reach out to help someone and they refuse, there's no need to state your point or insist on helping. Give them the benefit of the doubt. If they do change their mind and decide to take you up on your offer, gladly accept it.
Some people are uncomfortable receiving assistance, but if you keep the idea on the table, they may turn around after some contemplation. If that happens, stay true to your original offer.
Summary
While most may overlook the overall value and importance of manners and etiquette in todays society, you can stand above the rest by showing others that these simple actions are astonishingly powerful.
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