Why Should I Be A Gentleman?

Are you a gentleman? Should all men aspire to be gentlemen? Shouldn't men be whoever they want to be?

Yes. And yes. A bit contradictory, I know.

Some claim both chivalry and gentlemen are dead in the modern world. While both are less popular than they were in the past due to evolving social norms, they are far from extinct. While our modern world has changed what it means to be a gentleman, it hasn't changed how to achieve gentlemanly status.

Being a gentleman is a benchmark that all men should strive for. It doesn't mean you have to change your identity or completely 180 your life. What it does mean is that you set a higher standard for yourself, that you constantly improve your own quality of life and that of the people around you. It involves being optimistic, looking for ways to uplift yourself and others, and contributing positively to society.

It's Not About Money

You don't need to be rich or powerful to be a gentleman. Your bank account, the clothes you wear, and the vehicle you drive are not what make you a gentleman. Avoid falling into the toxic mindset of fixating on material things in order to achieve gentlemanly status; rather, focus on doing good through your actions.

Presentation Is Important 

A gentleman is conscious of how he dresses because he knows that his outward appearance influences others' impressions of him. By being mindful of what you wear, the fit of your clothing, and how you accessorize, you display confidence and self-respect. Good hygiene is also critical. Always make sure to take a few extra minutes to brush, floss, and put on deodorant every morning.

When you embrace a gentlemanly lifestyle, you begin to see yourself in a brighter light. You are committed to taking care of yourself not just physically, but also mentally. Instead of dwelling on negatives, you see the positives. You always look to find the good in life and to show that good to others. Sometimes we just need a little bit of sunshine in our day, and that's what a gentleman gives. You don't judge others based on their past but are more than happy to help guide those who are unsure of future choices. You are viewed as a role model by your colleagues and peers. 

Dressing for a first date is very important. Our article How Does A Gentleman Dress On A First Date? explains the do's and don'ts and how you should dress to impress.

Standards Are Standard 

Being a gentleman means you have standards and won't settle for less. You have a clear vision of where you want to go in life, and the decisions you make today will affect your direction. You are aware of what helps or hinders you and take the paths that will enrich your life. When you begin to follow those paths, doors will open and more opportunities will appear. People will see that you are dedicated, passionate, and strong.

Life Has Purpose

You live your life with a sense of purpose and meaning. Rather than spending all day playing video games or watching Netflix, you are proactive. You value your time and the importance of learning new skills. Every skill you learn is another feather in the hat of your life. You are passionate about your interests and eager to share them with those who want to hear. 

We wrote an article, 11 Ways To Discover Your Passions, that will help you discover your purposes and help you find what you truly love in life.

A Gentleman Is ALWAYS In High Demand 

A gentleman is always in high demand. If you ask almost any woman what kind of man they'd love to have in their lives, almost all of them will say they want a gentleman. They may not use those exact words, but they will describe positive traits that align with what a gentleman is. Most people want a partner who is respectful, affectionate, open, driven, and kind. Be that person. When you act like a gentleman, you will discover that your relationships will be stronger.

A gentleman will go out of his way to help someone in need without asking for anything in return. The act of helping is all the payment he needs. His positive actions and words directly reflect who he is and what he believes. He respects those inside his social circle and those he's never met. If you have difficulty helping others, put yourself in the other person's shoes. If you were struggling, would you want help? Be the superhero, and volunteer some of your time to help those in need.

To learn more about how a gentleman should act, please read our article How Does A Gentleman Act In The Modern World?

Summary:

When you consider all these benefits, whether or not you decide to live a gentlemanly lifestyle should be no question. Gentlemen radiate a life worth living. Whether they've already lived a long gentlemanly life or are just beginning the journey, they know that the world is full of riches to be discovered. Every day is a new day to explore and travel, to build and help, to improve and learn. Commit to being a gentleman and you too will see your life improve more than you could ever imagine.

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